Footloose & Fancy-Free

When I decided to start this blog, I thought I would call it "The Single Girl Diaries". However, that name was taken as it isn't very original and it is apparently the name of a TV show. Anyhow, I thought I would run a list of synonems to SINGLE and see what came up. I really had a good chuckle as footloose and fancy-free were two of the options. What does that say about being in a relationship? On the other hand, the list also included virgin, celibate, and isolated so not exactly a big win against the social stigma of being single, solo, and unfettered.

It got me thinking though about what it means to be single. There are a lot of negative conotations because since Noah's Arc, it is human nature to want everything in pairs. But there is also an aura of naughtiness and fun. Single girls are wild and free living their lives to the fullest while their coupled counterparts are sitting at home turning into their grandmothers.

Well, neither is true of course. I am nothing like Samantha from "Sex and the City"; I couldn't even compete with Charlotte. But I am not unhappy and crying into my cereal every morning either. I enjoy the fact that I don't have to check with anyone if I want to see a movie with friends or go out dancing. There isn't a man to include in my plans so it certainly simplifies my planning process. I do what I want, when I want to. I see my friends in relationships, some in very good ones but most not so much, and I wonder why the heck they put up with that crap. I rather be all alone till death then settle for some jerk whose life pursuits are sex and sports and who makes me feel insignificant and trapped.

With V-Day tomorrow, I think all single gals start thinking about what life would be like if they were in a relationship. But in the end the key is who you are in the relationship with not just being in a relationship so you can say you are in one. So, I will remain footloose and fancy-free until I can meet a man who makes me feel like that while still being a couple.