Meeting Mr.Right, At The Wrong Time

After being single essentially for the better part of a decade, I think I met someone who I could see myself with long term.  And I mean long term as in the rest of my life. But in true Summer fashion, there's a complication: he's moving away. Far, far away.  Those words don't really have the ring they do in fairy tale when they are said in regards to the guy you like moving halfway across the world.

I can't figure out how these things always happen to me.  Why can't I just meet the guy and the guy be available? Not in a relationship. Not married.  Not living in Hawaii. Not moving to away. It's like you are damned when you do and damned when you don't.  I keep putting myself out there and the universe keeps saying "Oh, here's a guy for you but here's the catch." And I sigh.  I guessing I'll be signing up for pottery classes and getting another cat because spinster-dom here I come.

Now maybe you're thinking that I should tell this guy how I feel and ask him not to go.  Trust me, I thought of that right away but that's a lot of pressure to pile on at the start of the relationship.  To ask someone you've known for a few weeks to give up something they've been planning for almost two years and say "Hey, forget that, stay here with me because I like you".  I would be so scared that he'd end up resenting me for his missed adventure and opportunity.  And what if it didn't work out? What if two months down the road, he and I split and then I'm the reason he missed out on his big adventure? Ahhhhh, the pressure.

So I'm stuck. Because if he feels about me the way I do about him, then he really should stay because it wil work out and last forever....But there are no guarantees besides the fact that the universe hates me and I'm going to stay single forever, it seems.  I've now got to go on in the single scene knowing I met someone perfect for me but it was the wrong time - just like all the wrong guys I met at the right time.  Sigh. I guess when it comes to finding true love, timing is really everything.